Is love a feeling of wanting to be around someone? Is it that fluttery feeling when you see your crush? Is it a fleeting feeling that falls apart a few years into marriage when someone gets stressed with family life and their spouse’s annoying quirks? No. No. Not even close.
That’s closer to what we call “romance,” that feeling of mysterious excitement around being in a relationship with someone. Romance is often full of rose-tinted ideals about relationships. Those ideals don’t often reflect the reality of awkward dates, miscommunications, and arguments over how to raise kids. Real relationships take more than charm, infatuation, and a dozen roses to last. It’s unfortunate that some of us mistake romance for real love, and end up disappointed when reality sets in.
Real love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a choice we make. Love is a commitment to the well-being of another person. Love endures the disillusionment of discovering that one’s partner has flaws and quirks like anyone else. Love doesn’t just disappear when real life hits and the fun goes away.
Romance isn’t a bad thing; it supplies the initial spark to what could be a long, stable relationship. However, romance is not the be-all and end-all of a relationship. Pursue love. Real love.